Balancing motherhood without compromising on yourself and your own life may seem like a tough job especially if you are a new mom and are taking care of a newborn for the first time. Often in the effort of trying to be the perfect mother, we tend to lose ourselves.
While the transition to motherhood is indeed tough and demanding, you just need to adapt to a new identity instead of losing it completely. The new shift can be difficult to adjust with – but only if you let it haunt you.
This does not only apply to new moms but all moms – no exception. Suddenly, everything around you is about that little guy or girl you just gave birth to. Whether you have to take care of your little dictator or go through the tantrums of your teenager, the life of a mom hardly takes a break.
But think about it for a moment – is this what motherhood really is? Does it really mean giving up everything you once associated yourself with because you have a child or children to cater to? Of course not! This isn’t what you deserve.
What you truly deserve at this point is to slow down, take a break from your busy-mommy schedule, and be yourself. You too can enjoy, laugh, and have fun without always making it about your child or children – after all, you used to do it before you became a mother, didn’t you.
Time to get some breathing room!
So here are some amazing ways for you to feel the joy without stressing about being a mother. These tips will help you cater to your emotional, physical, and mental needs that you have been ignoring for long.
Accept it and Move On
This point is especially for the new moms, who continue to struggle with their new identity. The only key to actually feel happy and relaxed is to accept and move on. Discovering motherhood is beautiful, but not everyone experiences it instantly. Remember, taking your time is okay.
Your schedule, priorities, emotions, and even your body will change post-baby. Accept those changes and understand that you will take time to get reacquainted with your real self. Coming to terms with reality will push you in a positive direction.
Flush off The Absurd High Standards
Parenting is a very subjective thing. Don’t follow others’ footsteps. Trying to keep up with high standards set by other parents will only make it worse for you.
Unfortunately, motherhood has to pay the price of living in a modern world. It is easy to get attracted to those standards, but in reality, it’s nothing but a stress mess. You must set your own standards and according to what you think is right.
We recklessly follow these growing ‘parenting’ trends and then complain we don’t have time for ourselves. You can always get tons of that in your hand only if you stop following those absurd parenting standards.
Cuddle More with Your Partner
This is one relationship that gets ignored the most just because women are trying to keep up the demand of their kids, household chores, and even work. The role of a partner often takes a backseat.
The parenting years are not only a challenge for you as a mother but also for their father. Staying close during this tough time will make the two of you a better team. Also, you will save the relationship from losing its charm.
Don’t hesitate in sneaking out with your partner and enjoy some alone time – even if that requires ditching your kids and sending them over to grandparents’ house.
Suddenly, you are more active in social circles where you can discuss your babies and children. You need to get yourself out of that company for some time. Spend time with real friends so you can enjoy being yourself.
Catch up with your girl pals and do all the crazy things that help you keep your head away from motherhood for some time. Let the dad perform some duties too.
Dedicate Some Time to Yourself Every day
Turning away from your motherhood responsibilities may not be the ideal option for everyone. But there’s nothing wrong is using some of your time for yourself – even if it is just 30 minutes during the entire day.
Do what pleases you. Read a book, take a nap, exercise daily, or dance to your favorite music tracks. These are also great activities for kids, and you can always welcome them to participate with you. Not only you can do what you like every day, but you will bond with your children better over these little things.
Lastly, take care of yourself. Exhausting yourself over the demands and needs of your kids will not only affect you in the long run but also them. So, focus on yourself, take some healthy ways to cope with stress, and relax. Instead of stressing about motherhood, feel its beauty, and use every chance to bond with your kids to make all the effort worthwhile.